Self Expert Help

Most people’s feelings and thoughts about themselves fluctuate somewhat based on their daily experiences. The grade you get on an exam, how your friends treat you, ups and downs in a romantic relationship-all can have a temporary impact on your wellbeing.

Your self-esteem, however, is something more fundamental than the normal “ups and downs” associated with situational changes. For people with good basic self-esteem, normal “ups and downs” may lead to temporary fluctuations in how they feel about themselves, but only to a limited extent. In contrast, for people with poor basic self-esteem, these “ups and downs” may make all the difference in the world.
People With Poor self esteem Often rely on how they are doing present to determine how they feel about themselves. They need positive external experiences to counteract the negative feelings and thoughts that constantly plague them. Even then, the good feeling (from a good grade, etc.) can be temporary.

Healthy self-esteem is based on our ability to assess ourselves accurately (know ourselves) and still be able to accept and to value ourselves unconditionally. This means being able to realistically acknowledge our strengths and limitations (which is part of being human) and at the same time accepting ourselves as worthy and worthwhile without conditions or reservations.

Our self-esteem develops and evolves throughout our lives as we build an image of ourselves through our experiences with different people and activities. Experiences during our childhood play a particularly large role in the shaping of our basic self-esteem. When we were growing up, our successes (and failures) and how we were treated by the members of our immediate family, by our teachers, coaches, religious authorities, and by our peers, all contributed to the creation of our basic self-esteem.

Self -esteem is Largely developed during Child Hood.

Healthy self-esteem includes. Being praised for something positive, being listened to , being spoken to respectably, where as Low self-esteem includes, Being Criticized harshly by parents or teachers,being beaten..

Before we can begin to improve our self-esteem we must first believe that we can change it. Change doesn’t necessarily happen quickly or easily, but it can happen. we are not powerless! Once we have accepted, or are at least willing to entertain the possibility that we are not powerless, there are three steps we can take to begin to change our self-esteem:
1:, BY giving message to our mind that we can change it.
2: taking help from others, (Feed back)..From friends or family..
3:Avoiding any one who tries to target our self-esteem.

Many times in our life such events happen which force us to go into very severe kinds of mood swings or at times they can also be personality swings. There are many times in life such events happening around us which changes the direction of our life altogether. They change the pattern of our life so quickly and so fastly that we never understand about what actually happened to us. This is more like an ant carrying a grain of sugar for their queen when suddenly you put you finger and the ant has to move or turn around. Or have you ever judged an ant’s behavior? Have you ever seen a group of ants carrying food and if you step you foot in two of them the rest will drop their food right there and cause a stampede. They will look for places to run in utter confusion. That is regarding the ants only but we human are no wiser then the ants in regards to life. We know that its god who created us and that it is in his hands that he can do whatever he wants to do with us. Therefore some times such events cause us to give up all hopes from life.

The very popular case of giving up hope is when you loose your loved ones. Imagine that you just married the person of your dreams and just as you started enjoying your life, you partner got in a car accident and he is no more here. That must be something more then shocking. You might go into depression and anxiety. Anxiety and depression are two states where people do not take keen interest in their life and loose every hope abut their lives. To them nothing looks good and they do not seem to have any point of living this life. All they think about is nothing! They are too pre-occupied with the thoughts of their loved ones and other stuff that they can not think about any other thing. If you are a person who is a severely effected from anxiety and depression then do not give up. This life won’t stop and it would not wait for you. All that you should do is that you should try to keep yourself busy in things like job and you should spend maximum time with friends and never stay alone. Help yourself to overcome this anxiety and depression.

Addiction basically means to get immune of some thing, some thing with out which a person does not get satisfied and he needs that element of addiction at every time of his life. Addiction can fall in to many categories, it could be for drugs, which may include medicines, cocaine, or it could be for television, sleep, travel, eating, or drinking.

When use of anything exceeds more then your needs and when a person would want to reduce the need of that addicted thing, this becomes very difficult. That is why it is known as addiction.
In case of alcoholism, it has a lot of disadvantages, which are physical and psychological.

Alcoholism makes a person alcohol dependant and for which there might be reasons like physical, mental, emotional and spiritual and at the same time all these reasons become the consequences for the addict. There are several rehabs for these kind of people so that they can get rid of these drinking problems, but the problems lies in the fact that the body of that particular person gets so much addicted to the percentage of alcohol that he can not stop his habits of drinking.

As the self help is the only concept which makes a person successful in every regards of life, weather is its money related, happiness involved or any other thing. In the similar manner self help can serve as the cure for this problem.

Any person who is an alcohol addict or alcoholic, he himself will be held responsible for being in that position, because this is a free world, where a person can do what ever he wants to, so if a person had reach to a point where he can not stop his habits which are harmful for him, there must be a definite start to all those habits, which for sure is initiated by man himself, on the basis of self help.

People start using alcohol, they enjoy it , they try it every day, and then there comes a day in there life when they realize that there is no way out without this, tough there are rehabs present to make people get rid of their addiction. But when a body gets addicted to certain percentage of alcohol, it becomes very difficult, even for rehab programs to bring that person back on track, unless the person himself have the courage to do so. So in this matter the concept of self help would be the only thing which could help that person out, as it has helped the man ever since.