Self Expert Help

Love the inside, embrace the outside.

First published in 1999, this thoroughly revised and updated edition now presents the issues and concerns relating to self-esteem in the LGBT world to a new generation of men and women. This compassionate guide delves in to the unique problems of self-esteem in the gay community, and how understanding your own self-worth can allow you to function better in this complex world. With advice for every demographic, this is the most comprehensive book for building a better you.

Dr. Kimeron Hardin is a licensed clinical psychologist and director of the Bay Area Pain Wellness Center.

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Achieving goals is like discussing the weather–everybody talks about it, but nobody does anything about it.

Approaching Infinity can help you convert your weak wishes into solid action plans you will be committed to carry out.

Approaching Infinity is your personal guide to find out how to:

Examine your current position in life,

Make clear-cut decisions of what you want,

Reveal your personal life purpose,

Identify your true values,

Strengthen your success-belief system,

Learn the power of the pleasure-pain principle,

Build powerful reasons why you want to achieve your goals,

Construct a sturdy, active plan through the six-step goal-setting process,

Find the easiest way to get your plan into motion,

Discover the secrets of accomplished Goal DOERS, and

Adopt the twenty-six ABC strategies of successful goal-achievers.

Begin the journey of the most exciting adventure you will ever read about–your life!

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An adventure into personal beliefs and strategies that limit your capacity for a full and magnificent life.

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A collection of over 100 writings with a Native American perspective of every day topics. Whispered from the woods of West Virginia, this collection is colorful and appealing. Some are humorous, some are spiritual, all are unique. The author is a voice for the forest and allows it’s timeless lessons to be heard. Come listen to the whisper of the wind…. ( over 400 pages, 10 illustrations by Peaceful Wind)

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“In a time when women are faced with many outside demands–career, family, community–this book will give them the tools and inspiration needed to remain grounded. A must read!”–Barbara McFarland, psychologist and author of My Mother Was Right

Based on the intimate stories of women who have struggled with issues of self-esteem, this invaluable book offers step-by-step guidance for women who want to transform themselves and create lives that are powerful, energized, and motivated.

A Woman’s Self-Esteem is also a guide for helping women learn the impact they can make on their own lives and how their positive actions will result in a stronger sense of competence and self-worth. A pioneer in the field of self-esteem, psychotherapist Nathaniel Branden explains that the foundation of a healthy self-esteem rests on six key practices or virtues–living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, purposeful living, and personal integrity–and reveals how women can cultivate these essential virtues to reach their full potential. The author?s inspiring, real-life vignettes show how women have come to terms with these complex issues by breaking away from self-sabotaging patterns and taking the necessary steps to create more satisfying lives.

In A Woman’s Self-Esteem, Branden debunks common myths and reminds us that self-esteem is not a gift given to us by others. Branden offers a revealing examination of the special issues that women grapple with including romantic love, jealousy, fear of selfishness, expressing anger, defensiveness, and success anxiety. Filled with creative exercises, A Woman’s Self Esteem was developed to enhance personal development and fortify self-esteem.

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Treat Yourself to a Good Night’s Sleep

I Want to Sleep is an invitation to make peace with sleep rather than war on insomnia.

When an estimated 76 percent of American adults use medications for troubled sleeping, and over 20 percent (the majority women) suffer from chronic insomnia, this book offers a fresh and promising perspective.

Studies show that sleeplessness rarely is pathological in itself. It is a symptom caused by stress. Dr. Haug, a veteran psychotherapist, takes us one step deeper: Insomnia is not necessarily caused by stressful circumstances, but by how we handle them. During the day we may forge ahead using pressure. For sleeping at night, however, this proves to be the most counterproductive approach of all. If you habitually force performance by scaring yourself, insomnia might well be a needed wake-up call.

Using real case studies and step-by-step guidance, Dr. Haug illustrates how to embrace sleep, rather than fight sleeplessness. Unlearning insomnia means changing your allegiance from being wired to being tired. I Want to Sleep is a practical, necessary, and engaging book. It is a hopeful and readable gift for all the sleepless people we love.

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How can you handle the narcissistic people in your life? They’re frustrating (and maybe even intimidating) to deal with. You might need to interact with some of them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one–so sometimes it just doesn’t work to simply ignore them. You need to find a way of communicating effectively with narcissists, getting your point across and meeting your needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments. This book offers a host of effective strategies for dealing effectively with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe.

Disarming the Narcissist will show you how to move past the narcissist’s defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You’ll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it’s sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you’ll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you’ll find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. Finally, you’ll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it’s time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.

“Anyone whose life predicament includes dealing with a narcissist will be well-advised to read Wendy Behary’s book and heed her advice. Disarming the Narcissist offers sound suggestions and keen insights–a breakthrough in one of psychology’s toughest cases.”

–Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence

“…a valuable contribution to the growing self-help literature on the fascinating subject of narcissism. Behary takes the reader step-by-step through a process of understanding our personal triggers to the wounding inherent in narcissistic relations and then lays out a pathway for personal empowerment and change.”

–Sandy Hotchkiss, LCSW, author of Why Is It Always About You?

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There are over 2 million American citizens incarcerated in this country. Many of those people have family members or other loved ones on the outside. All of them have been adversely affected by the incarceration of the loved ones to various degrees. And those loved ones can be a tremendous help and resource for the ex-offender when he/she finally gets out of prison. But in many cases, the loved one on the outside has no clue what to do to help their incarcerated loved one. Programs seem to be scarce. Many people who are asked for help turn in the other direction. Oftentimes the person searching for help feels just as lost as the person inside the walls. This manual addresses that experience. This book is for anyone who is affected by the imprisonment, past or present, of a loved one and wants to do something to help.

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Self-criticism is deceptive. It hides below the surface. From there it can cause you to feel depressed, inferior, self-conscious, irritated, guilty, unworthy — the list goes on and on. Nearly everyone is vulnerable to it. Parts I and II of this book give a clear picture of how self-criticism operates. Part III helps you to recognize it in the moment, and Part IV gives you the strategy to reduce and eventually stop it.

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